Saying No to Birth Control, is Anti-Feminist?!

Please excuse me if this post hums the tune of a rant but after talking with a few friends about the birth control pill and its effect, I’m a little what I like to call, “Wendy-Williams-hyped-up”.

The conversation began with Shonda Rhimes’, Year of Yes, and the part about being an F.O.D. (first only different) and transitioned into women “having it all” and breaking the glass ceiling, which led to a question about when is a good time to start a family.

One friend shared that she had been on the pill for nearly 20 years and never gave it a second thought until recently when she and her wife were trying to get pregnant and was told she needed to be "off" the pill for an extended period of time (at least a year) to give her body time to readjust without synthetic hormones.

Personally, I was on the pill for 13 years and it was given to me to help “regulate” what I now call, my monthly moon cycles, however I tried multiple brands before settling into one that agreed with my body and didn’t cause me to behave like the Evil Queen, Regina from ABC’s Once Upon a Time.


We all shared stories about the different levels of intense side effects and emotions that ranged from sobbing uncontrollably, bouts of depression, lack of energy, acne, decreased sex drives, weight gain in the wrong places and the list goes on.

Essentially what we all realized that for the most part we were not really given a choice to make the decision on our own. It was highly encouraged by our parents, pediatricians or another adult subject matter expert, like your Aunt Wilma who has a Ph.D. and M.D. in biology but never went to medical school, -- how taking the pill was for "your own good". Now as an adult it all sounds very controlling in retrospect.

One friend shared the trailer for the documentary by Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein called, Sweetening the Pill, inspired by the book written by Holly Grigg-Spall. 

If you’re not aware Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein are also behind the Business of Being Born documentaries, which is on Netflix. Check ‘em out for educational purposes if you desire, no pressure.

However when I began to go down the rabbit hole and research more about the book and when the film would be released I came across a plethora of shade being thrown Abby and Ricki’s way.

Here are just a few of the quotes I found from which had made me be like, WTF??!!!:

Opposition to the birth control pill is opposition to women’s emancipation.” “It’s bad science, it’s anti-feminist, and it will kill women.”

Honestly, I don’t believe the message that Ricki and Abby are sharing with women is anti-feminist at all. In my opinion, these two women are indeed feminists who want to ensure that women have ALL the information which includes the good, bad and ugly parts.

Have you seen the Business of Being Born films? Did you read or listen to Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes? We would love to hear from you.